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Skye C Cleary

Philosopher, New York City

Skye C Cleary is the author of Existentialism and Romantic Love (2015) and co-editor of How to Live a Good Life (2019). She teaches at Columbia University, Barnard College and the City University of New York. Her next book, How to Be Authentic: Simone de Beauvoir and the Quest for Fulfillment, is forthcoming in May 2022 from St Martin’s Press.

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Romantic regimes

Skye C Cleary

It’s a perfectly reasonable life choice not to love. The existential view is that we are not complete (fully human) until death because, before that, possibilities always lie before us. Individuals are the sum of wide and varied actions, and there is no imperative to have loved romantically.

After all, romantic loving isn’t so great. It’s horribly plagued with anxiety over questions like: Does he love me as much as I love him? Will this work out or is there heartbreak dead ahead? Why has my entire happiness become dependent on his next sms?

Also, there has to be something illicit about that narcotic-like high that love sparks. It’s intoxicating, exciting, beautiful, exhilara...

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Honestly, it’s fine!

Skye C Cleary

It takes a certain kind of intimacy or, perhaps, a large dose of self-righteousness to be able to swear at someone. I don’t think passive aggression is a result of mental illness as one commenter suggested, but rather insecurity… we’re not sure whether we ought to be upset, whether our feelings are justified, whether we’re overreacting, whether we ought to just sweep our negativity under the carpet and hope it will go away. We worry that if we were to express our true feelings of anger and swear, we put the entire relationship at risk. Passive aggression is a soft way of raising an objection - and ideally, the person on the receiving end would be sensitive to this. With a sister (or any f...

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